The Call – It Takes a Team!

I remember vividly the day my husband came to me and shared that God was calling him to be a Pastor. I looked at him frozen like a deer staring into headlights.

I asked him to repeat what he just said because I thought I heard him say, “God was calling him to be a Pastor”! He smiled, spoke again, and asked me to be in prayer about this revelation.

I had sensed God was working in both our lives, preparing us for something different, but I struggled to comprehend what this would look like long term.

I had so many questions for God.

I began praying, journaling, abiding in the Word, and making space for God to speak, and He did. I recall His words gently spoken within my spirit, “I’m calling him, but I am calling you, too. You’re to be a prayer intercessor for your husband.”

Make no mistake. I firmly believe that my first and foremost calling is to be the best wife I can be to my husband.

“At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’ because she was taken from ‘man.'” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.”

God intentionally designed wives to be helpers to their spouses (Gen. 2:18, 21).

With their unique job as a shepherd:

•    We keep their long hours.
•    We bear the burdens.
•    We experience disappointments and victories with them.
•    We are their sounding board and their cheerleader.
•    We cast the vision alongside them.

Again, your primary ministry is to your husband and your family. But, your secondary ministry is to the church.

However, we do this as a team with our husbands.

What other occupation allows a husband and wife to labor together while reaching for something bigger than themselves?

Knowing what they do is for God and to further His kingdom should cause the spirit within us to join arms with him making a difference for God’s kingdom together.

The disunity comes when you lose sight of God’s purpose. His purpose for you and your family and the people group you have been specifically appointed by God to reach.

When you both end up going in different directions, it affords room for the enemy to set up camp and slow down, if not destroy, your ministry.

It’s when the enemy causes warfare that we begin thinking this was all a mistake; I don’t belong, I’m alone, I have no purpose, the church has robbed me of the marriage I once had.

Consider Ephesians 4:1-5 with me:

“Therefore I, the prisoner in the Lord, urge you to live worthy of the calling you have received, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit-just as you were called to one hope at your calling-  one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is above all and through all and in all.”

Aside from being a team with your husband, we are also considered members of the church.

We ought to serve one another as the Lord demonstrated.

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Mark 10:45)

God has uniquely gifted you to serve alongside your husband. When you both are unified, working as a team, and aiming for the same goal God has set before you it is pleasing to the Lord.

As I remember my reaction to my husband nearly eighteen years ago, I’m grateful God answered my questions and let me see that there was a place for me to minister alongside my husband. Since then, God has expanded my calling and has allowed me to flourish while staying faithful to intercede for my man. We are better together, and so are you and your man!