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When You Can’t Do It All

By:  Rebecca Holloway With the office of pastor's wife comes a list of expectations. We've all read articles on the internet or books about how to meet those expectations. But what if you CAN'T respond to those expectations? What if it becomes humanly impossible for you to serve? What if you are sidelined by a serious illness? In the past three years of my life, my ability to serve has become limited at times. Between my son Evan being born with Down's Syndrome and various health issues of my own, I have missed some Sundays. But nothing prepared me for what happened this past Christmas. After playing in a piano concert the first Sunday of Advent, I noticed I wasn't feeling well and hadn't been for most of the week. I couldn't figure it out. I wasn't congested, my ears weren't hurting, nor was I coughing. I just felt unwell. I was sweaty, achy, I had a...

In Times of Uncertainty

By:  Denise Gerst As Pastors' wives, we serve in a unique role.  The expectations placed upon us can lead us to a place of uncertainty.  There are times when we feel overwhelmed, singled out or have unrealistic expectations placed upon us.  Criticism and scrutiny can add to feelings of uncertainty.  The Prophet Jeremiah wrote in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, sayeth the Lord, thought of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  God already has plans for us.  The standards and unrealistic expectations should not be our goal.  He should be our goal.  His plans and his thoughts toward us is what we should focus our attention.  All else is unworthy of our attention.  When I have become uncertain, I check my focus.  Who am I attempting to please?  What goal am I trying to reach?  What standard have I placed upon myself or...

Suffering Well

By:  Michelle Muncy Recently I stepped up in our church at the end of Sunday night fellowship and asked them to pray for me. In the past several weeks we have had wave after wave of hardships. One or two I can handle, but this constant bombardment has worn me down. I was to the point I just couldn't handle "one more thing". Have you been here? I'm sure you have. We had just moved to KY when I fell and broke my hand. While I saved myself from a vicious fall down a flight of stairs, it was at the sacrifice of my freedom. I had to have surgery to place pins in my hand, and I soon found myself frustrated at my lack of ability to function. My husband and daughter had to help me bathe, dress, and bring me meals the church so graciously provided. Everything was hard. (Have you ever tried...

When the Drama is Not on Stage!

By:  Christi Avant Watson I teach theatre arts to teenagers, and I often tell them to "keep the drama on stage." Pastors and their families are no strangers to off-stage church drama. I don't have to define what I mean by off-stage drama. If you are in a ministry family, you know. Once I roomed with a pastor's daughter who I thought would be my fellowship in a very secular environment. Quickly I learned that she was thrilled to be in a place where no one expected her to step foot in a building she had lost faith. When I heard her story of watching on the sidelines while her dad's life work had been thrown under the bus of hypocritical, off-stage church drama, I couldn't blame her. Fast forward a few years in my life and I watched my Dad experience something similar. At the time, I was in NYC, far away from the Bible Belt....

Living Inside Out!

OH MY SOUL!!!!  I had done it again! I slipped from living in the Spirit to reacting from my soul!  You know....the soul - your mind, your will, and your emotions.  The place where you act out.   My mom used to say, "Don't be ugly."  Well, I had been "ugly".  I knew it.  I hated it.  I loathed it but there it was and there was nothing I could do to take it back. The thing was, it didn't take but a second to slip.  One momentary lapse of Spirit control and there it was. It seems that since the Lord has been speaking about returning to the "former things".  I have been tested.....tested to the very limit of my flesh and yet there is no excuse....for IF HE is the One calling to return - I must return by His way and not my own. There it is.  My will. My iron justifying will. Left...

Troublemaker!

He was a Roman citizen and a Jew.  He was outspoken, bold, and courageous.  To some, he was brash, prideful and overbearing.  "Persecutor of the followers of the Way, hounding some to death, arresting both men and women and throwing them in prison." (Acts 22:4 NLT) He was well versed in the traditions and teachings of the Jewish faith as well as being a solid Roman citizen.  Then one day, on the Damascus road, Saul, a persecutor of the church (the Way), became Paul. Suddenly, the trouble he had caused the Way shifted and he became a troublemaker for the religious leaders of His day.  He went from holder of tradition to warrior for the Way. Why in the world would I write today above all days on Paul?  Because as a leader, when Paul showed up or spoke up there was trouble.   On the road to Damascus he was blinded by the...

Finish well

Written by:  Michelle Muncy I have finished the work which You have given Me to do. John 17:4b NKJV It's happening again. If you are a pastor's wife, I'm sure you have been there. The moment you realize the Lord is calling you away from your current ministry on to something new. Rob laughs at me because I begin to save boxes months before we ever know we are moving. Closets start to get cleaned out and I just 'know'. I guess the Lord realizes I need more time than Rob to adjust. The problem with moving is saying goodbye: to ministries, to loved ones, to dreams that never will be. It is bittersweet because you know the Lord is moving you for a purpose but it is still so hard so say goodbye. Of course, there are also those ministries we can't wait to leave. The ministry that is so painful but the Lord has yet...

Confessions of a PK!

By: Christi Watson Until I was a preteen, I ate up every part of being a pastor’s kid.  In my eyes, my Dad knew everything about God and everyone loved my Dad.  Being a pastor’s kid afforded me opportunities to do things like have lunch with my favorite musicians. Doors were opened for me to do what I loved to do, SING! Then there was the “J” incident.  I will call him J to protect his identity.  I was on the cusp of middle school when my Dad decided to take a very public stance from the pulpit against a store in our small Texas town that was actively promoting pornography.  J’s father had been very strategic in bringing this business to our town.  Day after day this boy would mock me on the playground because of my Dad.  I remember feeling ashamed and then increasingly angry.  One day, backed by the full force of my...

Finding our Identity

I was busy. Too busy. Working while in school, three kids going ten different directions, a recent move to a new state and my pastor/ husband meeting and greeting as we tried to find our footing. Makes me tired just thinking about it! This pace of life wasn't anything new; this was our life. A continuation of the life we had at our last church and I understood this was for a season. I was sure things would change when the kids grew up, and we completed grad school. It was in this setting that my husband was planning a mission trip to Mexico. No problem, I got the kids. Plans were set but in God's infinite sense of humor Rob got sick the day before the trip. Since it had already paid in full, the church asked if I would be willing to take his place. "No worries," they said, "we will take...

Sending Your Husband

For sixteen years, my husband and I had a great marriage. We loved the Lord, were active in church, tithed, and taught our children about Jesus. When Rob shared he felt called to leave his field and be a pastor full time it was not a surprise; I saw it coming. Taking that leap of faith, well, that took my breath away. So many changes, so many surprises. The Lord saw us through the transition, and Rob got his first church. We were so excited, and I was ever the supportive wife. I knew the Lord had called us and after all how different could it be? What I didn't realize was what Rob becoming a pastor would mean for our family. Suddenly I had become a single mom. No matter how many times I tried to explain this to Rob he just didn't "get it." To him, he was doing what a preacher should. He...