What about Me?
My husband is THE minister, but hey—what about me? Where do I fit in, and do I even count at all? Seems there are so many expectations, including own expectations, so how do I know what to do, or be?
My husband often referred to the “BE” theory – – God created the world and spoke all that is into existence, and Genesis 1:3 says, “…let it be.” I believe God designs us to BE and that precedes our actions. So the question for you today is what do you be?
What does it mean to be a minister’s wife? You are his family, his closest companion. You are the privileged person who witnesses his private struggles when no one else sees the pain or heartache, or difficult choices.
You are the dinner date for the many and various special occasions.
No one can fill God’s purpose for you but you; you cannot copy any other person. You and your husband are unique. Life is not happenstance, so recognize that and embrace your life. Thank God for trusting you to carry His reputation. Be real, and not rebellious.
Your attitudes are infectious, so you can BE genuine, gracious, and grateful, or you can be one who gripes and grumbles. It really is your choice. You are not bound to thoughts or feelings that say, “Well, that’s just the way I am!” If that expression gives you a pass for ill-mannered behavior, ask God for an attitude check. He will help you overcome your natural way for His way.
God provides instruction for what we are to be:
- Ephesians 4:23, BE renewed in your mind…
- Philippians 2:5, regard others as Jesus did…
- Colossians 4:2, BE devoted to prayer, always with thanksgiving…
- Proverbs 14:30, BE tranquil not envious…
Search scripture and find God’s direction, but remember this: BE pleasing to God.
Written by Anita Onarecker Wood – She serves on the women’s leadership team for Southern Baptist’s of Texas Convention and is a popular speaker at retreats, special events and loves teaching Bible Study classes!
