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Confessions of a PK!

By: Christi Watson Until I was a preteen, I ate up every part of being a pastor’s kid.  In my eyes, my Dad knew everything about God and everyone loved my Dad.  Being a pastor’s kid afforded me opportunities to do things like have lunch with my favorite musicians. Doors were opened for me to do what I loved to do, SING! Then there was the “J” incident.  I will call him J to protect his identity.  I was on the cusp of middle school when my Dad decided to take a very public stance from the pulpit against a store in our small Texas town that was actively promoting pornography.  J’s father had been very strategic in bringing this business to our town.  Day after day this boy would mock me on the playground because of my Dad.  I remember feeling ashamed and then increasingly angry.  One day, backed by the full force of my...

Leave It!

...leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. Matt. 5: 24 
  
Truth....church people get angry at one another.  Sadly, it seems that sometimes the meanest people on God's planet are His children.  Have mercy!  We can be angry, critical, faultfinding, condemning, judgmental, bitter, resentful, backstabbing, and just plain ol' mean to one another.  Jesus cut to the heart of each our self-righteous excuses.  Simply put,
  • "If you stay angry at your brother/sister your guilty of judgment."
  • If you call someone "fool, empty headed" you are to be brought before the religious officials
  • Finally, if you call someone, "moron, good for nothing", then you are guilty of hellfire!
The words of our Lord cut to the marrow.  He further instructs, "If you are offering a gift at the altar and remember that your brother has something against you, leave it there, go and be reconciled...

I’m Sorry!

Make allowance for each other's faults, and forgive anyone who offends you.  Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. Colossians 3:13-14

"I'm sorry!" Words are spoken in frustration not because the person wanted forgiveness but because she wanted the conflict quickly resolved.  She desired to brush what was stirred up "under the rug" and move forward without any true accountability for words spoken, no remorse for actions taken, no true reconciliation or mending. The problem with not cleaning up what's stirred up is that it's still under the surface.  Stirred up and lying in wait to trip us up through mistrust, unforgiveness, pride, harshness, gossip, slander, hard-heartedness, rebellion and selfishness. The result:
  •     Doubt
  •     Disunity
  •     Distrust
  •     Disharmony.
None of us is exempt from relational conflict.  It's part of life.  If you have two people in a relationship, there is bound...

Humility Amidst Conflict

In this world we will find trouble... (John 16:33) Such encouraging words aren’t they? Ha!

Actually the words right before this phrase are even better...
I say this to you so that you will have peace. What??!! Not sure about you, but neither of these phrases brings me much comfort. Most of the time when I am in the middle of trouble, peace is not the first, second, third, or forth emotion that comes flying up from the depths of my heart. So, why did Jesus tell his disciples and now through this scripture tell us that we can have peace? Let’s think about the facts. Jesus doesn’t lie. He says we can have peace in the midst of trouble....so why do we not feel peace? Maybe because the Truth we know in our head is not the same truth we hold in our soul. We need to do some soul searching to determine the lie our soul is believing...

Heavenly Armies

“O LORD God of Heaven’s Armies! Where is there anyone as mighty as you, O LORD? You are entirely faithful.” Psalm 89:8 Lately I’ve been fascinated by all of the biblical references to the “God of Heaven’s Armies.” In the Old Testament, the God of Heaven’s Armies is both just, and merciful. He has a jealous love for His people, and is in complete control of their destinies. When He speaks, He speaks with power and truth. He is faithful to His promises...always. During my freshman year of college, my family was in the process of adjusting to a new city, state, and church. My father pastored the church I grew up in fourteen years before moving. I wasn’t the typical pastor’s kid who was used to the idea of frequent relocation. My sisters were in 7th and 11th grade at the time and were adjusting, rather grudgingly, to a new school. We had moved closer...

Whose Battle Is It?

A few summers ago we hosted a BBQ at our home. I was enjoying the beautiful sunny day watching families visit and children play. Then I overheard a young girl ask her mother to take her inside our house. She said, “I want to see what a pastor’s house looks like”. Yes that sounds comical but I don’t think its’ just children that think we are a different species. Her mother laughed quietly but quickly found a reason that they needed to come into our home. You know I truly believe she was just as curious as her child. When they entered the kitchen door I watched her scan the room carefully and then made her way to the washroom scoping out each room on her way. Ministry families are often held to different standard and expected to be perfect in every situation. When we fail to meet those expectations the stories start spreading. It’s...

Betrayal….I’m Dead Meat

I knew something was up. We had a saying, "There's a disturbance in the force".  This tongue in cheek statement  was made when there was no apparent reason for feelings of  uneasiness and yet those feelings were present.  You know -  the feeling that something was happening that you couldn't quite put a finger on. For us, it signaled the need for increased, vigilant prayer. He walked through the door and I saw the look on his face.  It was more stressed than usual.  He carried an envelope in his hand and as he handed it to me flatly stated, "The most spiritual comment I can make is, "I'm dead meat."  "What's going on," I asked? He gave a tension filled explanation that his administrative assistant had resigned.  She had written a resignation which in reality was a lengthy tell all "letter" and submitted it to the former search team and him. We had been...