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Adversary

Be sober-minded; be watchful.  Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. I Peter 5:8 (ESV)
An adversary is defined as one who contends with, opposes or resists.  You and I are contending with a great adversary.  Whether we acknowledge him or not.  He is alive and very active.  The American church has not prepared the body of Christ to deal with him.  In fact, in my opinion, we mostly do not acknowledge him for fear that we will give him more attention. In reality, perhaps we just don't believe that he has that much power.  I fear that we have left our pastoral families wide open for attack.   We have devoted very little time in training our Ministry wives in the area of spiritual warfare and how to engage without being non-biblical or ineffective.
In the past few days, I have been reminded of the battle we...

Following the Leader

Those are the most accurate words I could use to describe my predecessor in Women's Ministry. From almost anyone's account, she could (and did) do it all. She was a gifted teacher, a loving friend, and could cast a vision for dreams bigger than anyone would reasonably consider taking on. She had a heart for missions, adoption and the hurting. She was basically the package deal (and by "package", I'm referring to the Premium Package). I feel rather confident suggesting the president of the United States would be intimidated to follow in her footsteps.
Yet, that is precisely what God asked of me-to follow a dearly loved, strong leader in ministry. I would be amiss if I led you to believe it was all sunshine and rainbows. Every day wasn't easy. My flesh would get in the way and I'd get defensive or scared.
However, there are some foundational principles I utilized...

Be You!

An older minister's wife had come to me right before I was to marry my husband. Trying to be helpful, she gave me a book on how to be a minister's wife. I was eager to learn! My fiancé and I had been in ministry together for several years, but I knew getting married would mean something entirely new. This woman had been on the front lines with her late husband for many years, so I took note when she spoke. And I assumed this book she had given me was probably the primer for the new life I was about to take on.As I read the book, I became more and more discouraged. The book Written by a more seasoned minister's wife, her ideas seemed to be from another era and time. You should begin cooking in October for the holidays. You should always have a casserole on hand in case of emergencies....

Leave It!

...leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. Matt. 5: 24 
  
Truth....church people get angry at one another.  Sadly, it seems that sometimes the meanest people on God's planet are His children.  Have mercy!  We can be angry, critical, faultfinding, condemning, judgmental, bitter, resentful, backstabbing, and just plain ol' mean to one another.  Jesus cut to the heart of each our self-righteous excuses.  Simply put,
  • "If you stay angry at your brother/sister your guilty of judgment."
  • If you call someone "fool, empty headed" you are to be brought before the religious officials
  • Finally, if you call someone, "moron, good for nothing", then you are guilty of hellfire!
The words of our Lord cut to the marrow.  He further instructs, "If you are offering a gift at the altar and remember that your brother has something against you, leave it there, go and be reconciled...

He Knows

"Jesus shouted to the crowds, "If you trust me, you are trusting not only me, but also God who sent me." John 12:44
"But I trust in your unfailing love.  I will rejoice because you have rescued me." Psalms 13:5
"For the word of the Lord holds true, and we can trust everything he does." Psalms 33:4
I power walk almost every morning on our lake front.  I put my ear buds in and I worship for 3.5 miles.  Most mornings I see a man standing at waters edge with up lifted arms, his Bible resting on the railing.  The moment I first saw him I was drawn to his abandoned worship of our Lord.  I have watched him for weeks.  His authentic worship makes me smile.  The other day as I passed him he had moved from the edge of the water to sitting in a Gazebo.  I heard myself call out, "Pray for me today." ...

When You Are Dishonored.

Then Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger, and did not eat food on the second day of the new moon, for he was grieved over David because his father had
dishonored him. (I Samuel 20:34)
  
My husband coined a phrase in the midst of a very difficult time in ministry. "Words spoken in honor empowers the Holy Spirit to make you look better than you really are but words spoken in dishonor empowers the enemy to cause you to look worse than you really are."  We live in a world where unfortunately, even in the church dishonor flourishes.  I am quite certain that most ministry families have endured seasons of dishonor.  Let's contrast these two words and then let's choose which one you and I will walk out for the rest of our days.Honor involves:
  • stopping dishonor - don't participate
  • respect for others
  • believing the best first
  • a guarded tongue and silence in terms of one's reputation
  • protecting...

Worry-Where to Go?

"Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved."            Psalms 55:22
  When you're having a bad day, what do you do? Do you complain? Do you worry? Do you get upset? We probably tend to do all three of those things. For some reason, there are those times we can't seem to remember to take our problems to the Lord. Eventually we do, but not until we've tried everything else and exhausted every avenue. Even as minister's wives, we can tend to save the Lord for last.  Psalm 55:22 basically tells us to pile our troubles on God's shoulders and let Him carry our load, because He wants to help us out. The people who annoy us...the worries of what tomorrow will bring...the unexpected news...the health that seems to be getting worse...the problems that we have should be taken to the Lord.  He'll help...

It’s Not Personal! It’s Ministry!

"Don't take this so personal, she said.  "This doesn't have anything to do with our friendship.  It's just that our family doesn't feel that we are getting everything that we need from the church(the same church where my husband was the Senior Pastor) and we believe that God is calling us to "so and so" church down the road."(The same "so and so" church where it was HAPPENING! )  I sat before her and was stunned.  I hadn't seen this coming and to be honest, I was speechless.  What did she mean, "Don't take this so personal?!"  I was trying to muster every bit of spiritual maturity but my emotions were betraying me and tears were welling up in my eyes.  I sat before a woman who had partnered with me in women's ministry for quite some time.  We had prayed together.  Laughed together.  Ministered to others together.  We had celebrated together.  Interceded for...

Pack Light

He told them: "Take nothing for the journey-no staff, no bag, no bread, no money, no extra shirt." (Luke 9:3)
Last spring our family took a little trip together during our daughter's school break. We drove nine hours one way to spend two days in a hotel in a snowstorm. Then we drove another nine hours home to spend another day in that same storm that somehow managed to follow us home! While packing for our quick getaway, my husband and I thought we could just share our "large" suitcase. I tried to pack light. Really, I did. But soon my husband was lugging another suitcase upstairs for himself. No matter how hard I try, my suitcase always bulges. Of course there were sweaters I didn't even wear, hand lotions I didn't need, medicines and toiletries that remained untouched for the duration of our trip; but how could I not take them...

Safety First

I am not what you would call new to ministry. As a matter of fact, I have been in ministry my whole life. As the daughter of a pastor, and now the wife of a pastor for over 37 years, I’ve seen a lot. And I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned what to do and what not to do. Trial by fire? YES! At times. Abundant blessings? YES! All the time. I am eternally grateful for the journey God has taken me on - the highs and lows are what has shaped me into who I am right now. And God is not done with the shaping - He will refine me until the day I am with Him. God has strategically positioned my husband and me at the same church for over 27 years. My present calling is to be a mentor to the wives of our staff men. If these precious women love...