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Confessions of a PK!

By: Christi Watson Until I was a preteen, I ate up every part of being a pastor’s kid.  In my eyes, my Dad knew everything about God and everyone loved my Dad.  Being a pastor’s kid afforded me opportunities to do things like have lunch with my favorite musicians. Doors were opened for me to do what I loved to do, SING! Then there was the “J” incident.  I will call him J to protect his identity.  I was on the cusp of middle school when my Dad decided to take a very public stance from the pulpit against a store in our small Texas town that was actively promoting pornography.  J’s father had been very strategic in bringing this business to our town.  Day after day this boy would mock me on the playground because of my Dad.  I remember feeling ashamed and then increasingly angry.  One day, backed by the full force of my...

Finding our Identity

I was busy. Too busy. Working while in school, three kids going ten different directions, a recent move to a new state and my pastor/ husband meeting and greeting as we tried to find our footing. Makes me tired just thinking about it! This pace of life wasn't anything new; this was our life. A continuation of the life we had at our last church and I understood this was for a season. I was sure things would change when the kids grew up, and we completed grad school. It was in this setting that my husband was planning a mission trip to Mexico. No problem, I got the kids. Plans were set but in God's infinite sense of humor Rob got sick the day before the trip. Since it had already paid in full, the church asked if I would be willing to take his place. "No worries," they said, "we will take...

Sending Your Husband

For sixteen years, my husband and I had a great marriage. We loved the Lord, were active in church, tithed, and taught our children about Jesus. When Rob shared he felt called to leave his field and be a pastor full time it was not a surprise; I saw it coming. Taking that leap of faith, well, that took my breath away. So many changes, so many surprises. The Lord saw us through the transition, and Rob got his first church. We were so excited, and I was ever the supportive wife. I knew the Lord had called us and after all how different could it be? What I didn't realize was what Rob becoming a pastor would mean for our family. Suddenly I had become a single mom. No matter how many times I tried to explain this to Rob he just didn't "get it." To him, he was doing what a preacher should. He...

Adversary

Be sober-minded; be watchful.  Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. I Peter 5:8 (ESV)
An adversary is defined as one who contends with, opposes or resists.  You and I are contending with a great adversary.  Whether we acknowledge him or not.  He is alive and very active.  The American church has not prepared the body of Christ to deal with him.  In fact, in my opinion, we mostly do not acknowledge him for fear that we will give him more attention. In reality, perhaps we just don't believe that he has that much power.  I fear that we have left our pastoral families wide open for attack.   We have devoted very little time in training our Ministry wives in the area of spiritual warfare and how to engage without being non-biblical or ineffective.
In the past few days, I have been reminded of the battle we...

Following the Leader

Those are the most accurate words I could use to describe my predecessor in Women's Ministry. From almost anyone's account, she could (and did) do it all. She was a gifted teacher, a loving friend, and could cast a vision for dreams bigger than anyone would reasonably consider taking on. She had a heart for missions, adoption and the hurting. She was basically the package deal (and by "package", I'm referring to the Premium Package). I feel rather confident suggesting the president of the United States would be intimidated to follow in her footsteps.
Yet, that is precisely what God asked of me-to follow a dearly loved, strong leader in ministry. I would be amiss if I led you to believe it was all sunshine and rainbows. Every day wasn't easy. My flesh would get in the way and I'd get defensive or scared.
However, there are some foundational principles I utilized...

Be You!

An older minister's wife had come to me right before I was to marry my husband. Trying to be helpful, she gave me a book on how to be a minister's wife. I was eager to learn! My fiancé and I had been in ministry together for several years, but I knew getting married would mean something entirely new. This woman had been on the front lines with her late husband for many years, so I took note when she spoke. And I assumed this book she had given me was probably the primer for the new life I was about to take on.As I read the book, I became more and more discouraged. The book Written by a more seasoned minister's wife, her ideas seemed to be from another era and time. You should begin cooking in October for the holidays. You should always have a casserole on hand in case of emergencies....

Leave It!

...leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God. Matt. 5: 24 
  
Truth....church people get angry at one another.  Sadly, it seems that sometimes the meanest people on God's planet are His children.  Have mercy!  We can be angry, critical, faultfinding, condemning, judgmental, bitter, resentful, backstabbing, and just plain ol' mean to one another.  Jesus cut to the heart of each our self-righteous excuses.  Simply put,
  • "If you stay angry at your brother/sister your guilty of judgment."
  • If you call someone "fool, empty headed" you are to be brought before the religious officials
  • Finally, if you call someone, "moron, good for nothing", then you are guilty of hellfire!
The words of our Lord cut to the marrow.  He further instructs, "If you are offering a gift at the altar and remember that your brother has something against you, leave it there, go and be reconciled...

He Knows

"Jesus shouted to the crowds, "If you trust me, you are trusting not only me, but also God who sent me." John 12:44
"But I trust in your unfailing love.  I will rejoice because you have rescued me." Psalms 13:5
"For the word of the Lord holds true, and we can trust everything he does." Psalms 33:4
I power walk almost every morning on our lake front.  I put my ear buds in and I worship for 3.5 miles.  Most mornings I see a man standing at waters edge with up lifted arms, his Bible resting on the railing.  The moment I first saw him I was drawn to his abandoned worship of our Lord.  I have watched him for weeks.  His authentic worship makes me smile.  The other day as I passed him he had moved from the edge of the water to sitting in a Gazebo.  I heard myself call out, "Pray for me today." ...

When You Are Dishonored.

Then Jonathan arose from the table in fierce anger, and did not eat food on the second day of the new moon, for he was grieved over David because his father had
dishonored him. (I Samuel 20:34)
  
My husband coined a phrase in the midst of a very difficult time in ministry. "Words spoken in honor empowers the Holy Spirit to make you look better than you really are but words spoken in dishonor empowers the enemy to cause you to look worse than you really are."  We live in a world where unfortunately, even in the church dishonor flourishes.  I am quite certain that most ministry families have endured seasons of dishonor.  Let's contrast these two words and then let's choose which one you and I will walk out for the rest of our days.Honor involves:
  • stopping dishonor - don't participate
  • respect for others
  • believing the best first
  • a guarded tongue and silence in terms of one's reputation
  • protecting...

Worry-Where to Go?

"Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved."            Psalms 55:22
  When you're having a bad day, what do you do? Do you complain? Do you worry? Do you get upset? We probably tend to do all three of those things. For some reason, there are those times we can't seem to remember to take our problems to the Lord. Eventually we do, but not until we've tried everything else and exhausted every avenue. Even as minister's wives, we can tend to save the Lord for last.  Psalm 55:22 basically tells us to pile our troubles on God's shoulders and let Him carry our load, because He wants to help us out. The people who annoy us...the worries of what tomorrow will bring...the unexpected news...the health that seems to be getting worse...the problems that we have should be taken to the Lord.  He'll help...