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Back to the Basics

"Lord this is too much. I need a moment to myself. Everybody needs me all at the same time. Can I just scream?"

Perhaps this is familiar. Perhaps you are overrun with everyday tasks, overwhelmed by the needs of everyone around you, drowning in your attempt to be everything to everyone else. Perhaps you can relate.
As a Pastor's wife, I often find myself feeling stretched thin, caring for my husband and family, attending to the needs of the ministry, interceding on behalf of people I know and don't know, praying for the nation I live in and others I have never visited--AND working a full-time job. Daily life can bog us down and taint our focus if we allow it to do so. Recently I taught a lesson on "Getting Back to the Basics." The lesson served as reminder to all who attended the study as well as to me not to allow daily life to...

Be Still…I’m Moving

It is dark yet, and the day is so very young when I nestle into my favorite chair. There is such a stillness in our home this time of day except for the ticking of the clock and the occasional peaceful sighs of my sleeping pup nearby. My heart welcomes the stillness. I need these few moments far more than I make time for them. The last few months have been hard…really, really hard. Just the thought of some recent events exhausts me. It is in this pure stillness that I find solace and am replenished by HIM. Though in these moments few words are uttered, there is a crying out of the soul to its Maker. Cries for help, comfort, wisdom, healing. I know!!! I know with all that I am that He is working…. moving and orchestrating the impossible. My problem is that patience in the process is not my strong suit, especially when people I...

When to Stay – When to Go

Ever relocated your family for a job assignment? We moved several times while in the ministry and military. Each move required packing up our belongings, emotions, and what was familiar. Uncertainties of when we would move, where we would go, and how long we would remain was part of this life. We were either at the mercy of orders handed down from Command or Gods new direction. We learned to depend on God for comfort, wisdom, and guidance. Are you in the process of a move? Are you packing up your belongings, emotions, and all that is familiar? If your answer is yes, let me comfort you with a truth. God is already where you are going. He has your back. He is working out all the details and preparing new friendships… He is also working within you a deeper dependence on Him. He wants you to be settled in Him when your circumstances feel unsettling. God shows us...

Perspective

In 1995 I received a tree ornament from my oldest son that he made in daycare. This one has his handprint and a conversation recorded on the back about what he wanted for Christmas that year. It goes like this: Miss Lavran: “What is Santa Claus bringing you this year?” Dillon: “Something. Blue toys, I think. Big ones. I need another police car because my other police car is broken. I need another radio for my mommy and daddy.” Miss Lavran: “Is that it?” Dillon: “Uh huh, it is.” In the early years of his life, his dad was a police officer. Wanting to imitate his dad, Dillon dressed in his makeshift uniform. Patrolling the living room in his red police car, he would make siren noises while pulling over suspicious stuffed animals, instructing them to behave. Each year that ornament provokes a flood of sweet memories I hold dear to my heart. But this sweet memory always begs...

Forfeiting Grace

  1. Grace is unmerited. God's grace defined is giving us what we don't deserve. We don't deserve forgiveness. We get it. We don't deserve material possessions. We receive much. We don't deserve talents or gifts. We use them freely. We don't deserve favor from Him. He honors us. We dishonor him. We forfeit God's grace by not excepting it, by refusing to live in it. By returning to the old....by reminding him of how bad we are.....by ignoring all that He has done for us....He never forfeits HIS Grace.....We forfeit his grace. We shove it back in his face....we either don't acknowledge it or we abuse it by not keeping our pride in check and wanting more and more our own way. We forfeit by staking claim over our blessings like we have done something that needs to be recognized and yet we wouldn't even be where we are if it hadn't been...

Walking with Kinslee

By:  Carole Leathem
One afternoon I was taking a walk with my granddaughter. As we walked, Kinslee grabbed my hand and began to walk backward. It was awkward, and she kept stumbling . At one point I let go of her hand for a minute. She said, You’ve got to keep holding my hand!” I looked down and asked, “Why are you walking that way?” She said, “I am watching where I have been. You have to hold my hand, or I will fall because I can[’t see where I am going.” We continued our walk, and soon she turned back around  saying, This is much easier now that I know where I am going.
The next morning, I sat in my office remembering her words. There was a lesson here. I realized that I was walking through my life focusing on where I had been.” Painful circumstances from my...

Fear

Once again, I have been reminded that living in the glass house brings with it a loss of anonymity.  People will know details about you and your family and in reality you could never pick them out of a line up.  Most of the time this will not be a cause for concern but let's be reminded we are living in times that we need to "be as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove." My family is familiar to ministering to the needs of many.  In fact,  it has been a common practice all of our ministry lives to shelter or feed any who have need.  It has not been uncommon for us to have late night visits or to have people who are in crisis show up at our door.  Recently though, my young adult daughter was home alone.  My husband was headed to a Wednesday night prayer time, out...

When You Can’t Do It All

By:  Rebecca Holloway With the office of pastor's wife comes a list of expectations. We've all read articles on the internet or books about how to meet those expectations. But what if you CAN'T respond to those expectations? What if it becomes humanly impossible for you to serve? What if you are sidelined by a serious illness? In the past three years of my life, my ability to serve has become limited at times. Between my son Evan being born with Down's Syndrome and various health issues of my own, I have missed some Sundays. But nothing prepared me for what happened this past Christmas. After playing in a piano concert the first Sunday of Advent, I noticed I wasn't feeling well and hadn't been for most of the week. I couldn't figure it out. I wasn't congested, my ears weren't hurting, nor was I coughing. I just felt unwell. I was sweaty, achy, I had a...

In Times of Uncertainty

By:  Denise Gerst As Pastors' wives, we serve in a unique role.  The expectations placed upon us can lead us to a place of uncertainty.  There are times when we feel overwhelmed, singled out or have unrealistic expectations placed upon us.  Criticism and scrutiny can add to feelings of uncertainty.  The Prophet Jeremiah wrote in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, sayeth the Lord, thought of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.”  God already has plans for us.  The standards and unrealistic expectations should not be our goal.  He should be our goal.  His plans and his thoughts toward us is what we should focus our attention.  All else is unworthy of our attention.  When I have become uncertain, I check my focus.  Who am I attempting to please?  What goal am I trying to reach?  What standard have I placed upon myself or...

Suffering Well

By:  Michelle Muncy Recently I stepped up in our church at the end of Sunday night fellowship and asked them to pray for me. In the past several weeks we have had wave after wave of hardships. One or two I can handle, but this constant bombardment has worn me down. I was to the point I just couldn't handle "one more thing". Have you been here? I'm sure you have. We had just moved to KY when I fell and broke my hand. While I saved myself from a vicious fall down a flight of stairs, it was at the sacrifice of my freedom. I had to have surgery to place pins in my hand, and I soon found myself frustrated at my lack of ability to function. My husband and daughter had to help me bathe, dress, and bring me meals the church so graciously provided. Everything was hard. (Have you ever tried...